Setting Yourself Free

Have you ever heard the theory that says if you were born in the same situation as someone else you would end up the same way they have?

Do you believe it?

Are you special?

Are you a unique soul that is different from other people even on the deepest fundamental level?


I have an inkling that your heart has an answer to that question. I would guess that when I asked that question something inside of you had an answer. I would even bet that you might have a reaction to that question.

So let me ask you… What does it feel like?

Whether you answer yes or no, does the answer create a light happy feeling or a heavy sinking feeling for you?

If you think, “yes, I am a special and unique soul” or “No, I am not,” which feels lighter?

I’m going to go out on a limb and say that the answer that feels light and happy is the truth and the one that feels heavy and sinking is the lie you may have bought about you.

Every time you believe a lie about you it’s like adding a weight.

Most of us walk around with tons and tons of extra emotional baggage called limiting beliefs.

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Limiting beliefs are all the crap you have believed about you that weighs you down.

Have you ever seen one of those people who just seem to glow? They radiate confidence and charisma. Why? If you asked them what is possible for them, what do you think they would say?

I have a sneaking suspicion they would tell you that they can do anything they set their mind to.

Can they do anything they set their mind to because they believe they can or do they believe they can because they do?

This is definitely a million dollar question that has been fueling the self help industry since its inception.

Here is the bottom line…

Either it’s bullshit and some people are blessed with the ability to create their dream lives and others are not…


Anyone can create the life they truly desire if they start by believing it’s possible.

I don’t know about you but that seems a lot like a 50-50 chance to me.

I like to see it this way…

If I believe my dreams are possible I have a 50% chance that I am right. If I believe my dreams are NOT possible I have a 100% chance I am right.

So what would you rather be... happy or right?

The Only Choice You Ever Really Have

The only choice you ever really have is your way of being. It the only thing you really have to worry about.

What is a way of being?

Your way of being is the attitude, energy, and emotion of you in any given moment. It’s the way you be in the world. It is your inner state as well as how you behave and show up in the world. 

Perhaps you don’t always feel so in control of your way of being.

You regain choice in how you be when you let go of the idea that anything or anyone other than you creates your way of being.

External circumstances do not determine your way of being, though, we may let them choose for us sometimes. 

When you live life on autopilot it is like being tossed around by the intention and expectations of others (external circumstances). 

We might project our own will onto the world around us trying to control the circumstances, but this ultimately leads to frustration and disappointment.

Realize the only thing you have control over is yourself. 

You cannot control anything but yourself.

You may have heard this before but I invite you to let that sink in…

It can seem like a huge responsibility but it can also be a relief. 

If I am the only thing I can control there is no reason to put my energy into controlling other people or places or things. 

Some of us try to control others from a sense of responsibility. We try to make them happy by avoiding what might create a negative response. We act as if we are responsible for, or have any control over, their response.

Taking responsibility for things and people you cannot control is exhausting. 

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We move ourselves in the world as if other people’s emotions, responses, and reactions are our responsibility to control. 

You are in control when you take full responsibility for yourself. You have choice in your thoughts, feelings, and responses. 

Some of us don’t feel like we have a choice. I know I didn’t for a long time and still don’t sometimes. 

I can only share with you what has made the biggest difference in my life. 

Tools To Help You Choose Your Way Of Being

If you pay attention to your way of being through the day, it becomes easier to allow the external circumstances to be less important. 

Being conscious that I can choose my way of being, and I can choose for me, makes the biggest difference in my life. 

Meditation is a tool I use to regain this consciousness when I forget. 

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