How many times have you seen something you wanted or something that would bring you joy and thought, “that’s not for me” or, “wouldn’t it be awesome if I could have that”.
If you are a human being reading this right now, probably a lot.
What I am about to share with you may sound too simple. Or, it may seem to overly abstract and hard to grasp but don’t worry. I will walk you through every step of the way.
I first discovered this powerful truth during my hypnotherapy training at HMI Hypnosis Motivation Institute. So many things fell into place when I discovered how powerful this one thing is.
There are a million resources out there about manifesting your desires, changing your reality, and creating your dream life. You have probably seen and tried a few. Most of them share something about visualizing what you want, writing it down, meditating, praying, doing the hard work, or some combination of the above.
Many of these methods are highly effective and some combination of these elements does in fact lead to massive change.
However, none of the above methods, or any other, will create change for you if you are not addressing this one thing…
Your self concept.
Your self concept includes everything that you think about yourself, everything you believe about yourself, the image you hold of you in your mind, as well as everything that you believe you can or should have during the course of your life.
Have you ever attempted to change, did everything you thought you needed to do, and before long found yourself back where you started?
If you attempt to change anything about your life without also changing this, you’re likely to end up in self sabotage land. Why? Because your self concept dictates who you are.
So how do you change your self concept?
The self concept is formed in the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind works in images and feelings. Your self concept is made up of a pattern of images and feelings you have about yourself over and over again.
This pattern has the power to shape your subconscious motivations and behaviors.
Another word we could use for ‘pattern’ is habit. You have a “habit of you” we call your self concept.
Changing everything about your life is as simple as changing your self concept on a subconscious level.
Changing your subconscious is really very simple. The trick is repetition. Your self concept is a habit. And so, changing it requires forming a new habit.
Your new self concept is going to be a new combination of feelings and images you have about yourself over and over until it becomes the new habit.
Here is a self-hypnosis method to dive into your subconscious mind and kickstart your transformation…
First it is important to note that repetition is not the only way to create a new habit. Highly emotionally charged events also have a way of becoming embedded in the subconscious mind. We can use this to our advantage by creating an emotional experience around your new self concept. So remember, the more you allow yourself to feel the feeling, the more powerful this practice will become.
What is Hypnosis?
Hypnosis is similar to guided meditation. With hypnosis there is no loss of control. If anything, you will be gaining control as your conscious mind and subconscious mind become aligned to your common goal. You can read more about hypnosis and how it works here.
This practice is not to be taken lightly.
If you choose to take this seriously, this practice has the potential to be one of the most life altering things you ever try. The difference is your level of commitment. So I invite you to go all in and see what happens. What do you have to lose?
Steps for Self Hypnosis:
Find a comfortable place to sit or lay down with your eyes closed and begin by taking three big deep breaths.
Imagine a light above your head floating down over your body relaxing each part starting with your head and face and moving all the way down, out the bottom of your feet.
Imagine yourself standing in a beautiful garden feeling completely at home and comfortable. Get a sense of this garden with as many senses as possible. Imagine the way it looks, smells, tastes, sounds, and feels.
Imagine you are standing at the other side of the garden. Imagine this image of you, not as you are now, but as you hope to be. Imagine the way you look, dress, stand, walk, smile… Create as much detail as you can.
See or get a sense of yourself walking up to this you and stepping into them. Imagine yourself merging with this new image.
Create a personal mantra. Choose a word that represents the way you want to be in the world. It could be anything from happy to successful to confident to charismatic to handsome to powerful to generous. Choose a word that evokes a pleasant feeling for you. Turn your mantra into an ‘I am statement’ by saying to yourself silently or out loud “I am…” and your one word.
Repeat this practice anywhere anytime as often as possible.
After your first time you can shorten the exercise in whatever way feels most impactful for you.
Another powerful option is to book a session with a Certified Hypnotherapist who can guide you to even deeper levels than you can typically achieve on your own.
Once you have been practicing for a while you may notice that the you in the garden begins to feel a lot like the you of your everyday. When this happens embrace it as the inner shift you have been waiting for!
Caution: Change happens on the inside before it happens on the outside.
Once you have the hang of this, and are really seeing yourself in a new way, the outer circumstances of your life may not change right away. You’ll get to trust and keep going for a little while knowing that they are coming. If you give up at this stage in the game your previous self concept has a persistent way of taking back over.
It’s all in your mind.
So much of what we experience on a daily basis is a result of our unconscious conditioning. When we believe good things about ourselves we tend to be treated as such and have relationships that mirror that inner experience. Likewise, when we feel awful about ourselves we tend to find ourselves in situations to reinforce our inner experience.
Through shifting your inner experience the entire experience of your life changes.
The subconscious mind always moves towards what is known and familiar, no matter how unpleasant that might be. Your subconscious will cling to your old ways of being without repetition and commitment to your new self concept. And, with a little commitment you can create a new experience for yourself that, with time, becomes you new normal without any effort on your part at all.
I’d like to leave you with a quote by one of my biggest inspirations and teachers, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer:
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.”
Try it out and let me know what you think! Leave a comment below or email Jennifer@jenniferdavoust.com