If you are reading this right now I have to assume you are at a point in your life where the future seems uncertain and doubt has become a frequent visitor.
The first thing I want to let you know is that everyone feels this. Every single person you know, everyone you pass on the street, and every celebrity you’ve ever seen online has experienced this same feeling…
That sinking heavy chested feeling that comes when we start to compare ourselves to everyone and end up feeling desperate and alone.
I don’t know about you but I have always prided myself on my rebellion. I was the kid that would do the opposite of what I was told just to prove I could.
At many many times in my life this rebellious spirit of mine has been a curse more than a blessing. And yet, in times like this, it has become my greatest asset.
Let me explain…
Anger can be an indispensable source of fuel. The pitfall of anger is when we leave it to stew and don’t use it as the fuel it is meant to be.
You may have been told a few times to “not care what people think of you”. I know that, for me, this feeling of doubt and hopelessness combined with my rebellious nature have created the perfect storm for me to simply say “F@$& IT! I don’t care anymore”! That can be a wonderful thing, or really really stupid…
The thing that comes next for me is what has allowed me to turn my doubt and insecurity into an amazing asset, not just for myself but for everyone around me.
I am the permission.
What does that mean?
Easy… It means that, because I know that everyone has the same or similar doubts and insecurities, I can embrace mine as the permission for everyone else to let it be okay for them to.
How awesome would it feel to simply let yourself feel whatever it is you are feeling.
To a lot of people that may seem like an impossibility.
“I can’t”, you may say. “It’s not okay for me to feel this”. “I should know better. I should be better”...
That’s a lovely sentiment AND… is it working?
Has it ever worked to tell yourself how wrong you are for having your feelings?
What I love about my strategy is that it allows me to make my nasty unwanted emotions not about me.
When I am feeling down I tell myself, “allowing it to be okay for me to feel this is how I am liberating everyone around me from the same shame and guilt I am choosing to overcome”.
I invite you to do the same.
Be the permission.
We each have the amazing opportunity to show each other what self compassion can look like.
Here is a tip…
Ask yourself what you would tell your best friend if they were feeling the way you are right now and tell yourself THAT!
Because you have the unique opportunity to set yourself free and everyone else in the process.
Trust is the obvious choice.
I trust that everything will work out because I know I am more likely to look for and find what works if I am trusting.
I trust that the universe is supporting me because when I don’t I am constantly fighting an uphill battle and miss all the wonderful amazing opportunities all around me.
I trust in myself to be okay and to figure things out no matter what is thrown at me because if I didn’t I would spend most of my time worried and that is exhausting.
At the end of the day, and at the end of your life, it just makes more sense to trust.
So take a deep breath… or three, and say “I trust”. Then go forth and love the heck out of yourself!